I have waited quite some time to share this story with you. To be honest, I was afraid to be just another money blogger shouting “look, I paid off my debt!”
We’ve been around for a couple of years now (as of this week!), and enough people have asked me about this story that I finally realized something. I realized it’s not a story about me or my family, or what we’ve accomplished. It’s about you.
It’s about the money struggles we all face. The ones that seem completely insurmountable. The ones that make us feel overwhelmed, isolated from the people we care about.
Maybe your challenge is a massive pile of school debt, like mine was. Maybe it’s an underwater mortgage, a retirement plan that’s looking more like an “if” than a “when”, or simply keeping the bills paid when your income isn’t keeping up.
We all have some big, scary dragon to face in our financial lives. I want to tell you about one of mine to remind you that you’re not alone. And most importantly, I want to show you that with a drop of strategy and a gallon of gall, you can slay anything.
Life and Debt: My Story
I remember joking with a friend toward the end of college about how I had just recently calculated my net worth for the first time. I was pleased to report that it was over six figures, but I was less pleased about the minus sign that went in front of it.
Most adults living in the 21st century will be dramatically unsurprised by my descent into debt.
It is tragically normal.
The Way Down
If you read my recent (somewhat sassy) story of how I paid for college by working a summer job, you’ll know that I did not, in fact, pay for college by working a summer job. (To clarify, I did have the summer job, it just didn’t pay for college, like, AT ALL.)
At 17 I joined a private university with no savings and no real plan. I worked all through high school and college but barely made a dent in my tuition. Even with a big chunk covered by scholarships and grants, I was still racking up tens of thousands of dollars in debt each year.
Midway through my last year of school, I accepted a cushy corporate job offer. I was sure that all my money problems were now solved (ha). So I immediately put my signing bonus down on a $20,000 loan for a car. Because why not.
Later that year, I proposed to my then-girlfriend. She said yes. We packed up our dog and the few things we owned into our new $20k liability and headed across the country to start our new life.
Soon after, we merged finances — one small Roth IRA, some savings bonds, a few scraps of cash in a bank account, and two massive piles of debt.
The True Cost of Debt
We got set up in our new home city, started working our fancy new jobs, and quickly realized that something wasn’t working. As we started managing household finances for the first time, we finally started seeing our debt for what it was: an absolute monster.
In total, we had 26 outstanding loans:
- 19 federal student loans (mostly mine), Total: $66,762.77
- 6 private student loans (all mine), Total: $80,962.00
- 1 car loan (also technically mine, though we did share the car), Total: $19,381.52
- Grand Total: $167,106.29
The combined minimum payments on all our debts (the minimums, mind you) made up nearly $2,000 every month. That was more than our already-expensive rent. Equivalent to a modest international vacation every month. Nearly $25,000 a year that we could have been saving for our future.
We were making more money than we ever had before, yet feeling further and further behind every month. Something needed to change.
Enter the Debt Dragon
We started teaching ourselves everything we could about money and debt. We landed on a basic strategy for how we would get out. We would just need to stick to it consistently for a few years. But there was still one thing missing. We needed a clear motivator, something to keep us on track when we started to lose steam.
We needed a reminder of what we were fighting for (and against).
So we (by which I mean she alone) made a drawing. It was a mandala — a complex pattern full of little shapes — based on a similar one we had found online. This particular mandala was ensnared by a dragon.
Initially, only the dragon was colored in. We intentionally left the rest of the design empty. Every time we paid off a certain amount of debt (we decided on $800 as our number), we would color in another cell of the drawing.
The plan was to keep the drawing always visible in our apartment. A reminder of what we were working toward, and how much progress we had made so far.
And most importantly, it gave our struggle a name. We now knew the face of the monster we needed to defeat: our very own debt dragon.
The Way Out
Slaying a dragon is no small thing. But neither is the treasure it guards. Once we had our quest laid out before us, we got right to work.
Defeating that dragon, and getting ourselves fully out of debt, became our sole focus. We were determined to do everything it took to zero out every last penny we owed, as quickly as we could.
At first, we hoped to be done in about seven years, before we turned 30. Whenever we mentioned this, people told us to be realistic, or that “it doesn’t really work like that.” Once we got going and got used to adjusting our habits to fit our plan, we started to think we could get there in five years. In the end, we were completely debt-free after just two and a half years.
No more minus sign.
What Worked For Us: 9 Creative Ways to Pay off Debt
As I said at the beginning, we all have our dragons to slay when it comes to money. Yours may be debt, like mine, or any of about a hundred other perilous adventures.
Whatever dragon you face, the best way to defeat it is to face it squarely and throw your full self into the endeavor. There are no shortcuts to this process, but it also hasn’t failed yet.
What follows is a list of the tactics and mindset shifts that made the biggest impact in helping my family get out of debt. But they’re not just about paying off debt. This framework has helped us succeed with our money a number of times since.
Whatever dragon you now face, I hope these methods will be of some help to you too.
1. Make a Plan
Any great endeavor that you set about without a plan is doomed to fail. This is just as true with building a financial legacy as it is anywhere else.
Now, I’m not saying that everything will go according to that plan, or that you should even expect it to. But you need to start somewhere and have a clear idea of what you’re going to do next.
With debt, that means focusing on one loan or liability at a time, in an order that makes sense to you. Pay the minimum you can on everything else, and put as much money as humanly possible toward eliminating just one source of debt. If you’re unsure what you want that order to be, most people go with either the avalanche or the snowball method.
2. Visualize It
The debt dragon itself — that is, the physical drawing — was a key component for us. A daily reminder of our goal, along with a tracker of how much progress we had made so far, helped us stay motivated.
Bonus — it made great opportunities to open up conversations about debt and money whenever people asked. Honest conversations with people we trust are a major component in maintaining our financial wellness. Plus, since it was only a drawing with no numbers or labels attached, we didn’t have to share the exact details of our debt situation with anyone if we didn’t want to.
3. Hit It From All Sides
When you’re facing a personal financial crisis like slaying the debt dragon, you need to hit it with your full focus and your full power.
When we started paying off our debt, we were fortunate enough to have pretty high incomes from our day jobs. But we didn’t rest there. We didn’t let that hold us back from trying everything else we could think of to raise our income and lower our expenses.
Anything that would free up more cash every month to throw at our goal, we did.
She started multiple side gigs, and I took on extra overtime at my day job. We both tried out driving for rideshare services on the weekends. We cut our expenses mercilessly.
Mind you, was this effort a sustainable one? No way, and it wasn’t meant to be. We did not put any expectation on ourselves to continue holding down five jobs between us, or slashing our spending forever. Why? Well…
4. Make It a Sprint, Not a Marathon
With most types of goals, you tend to be better off with a long-term mindset. When it comes to things like habits and big professional projects, the thing that you can consistently do always beats the thing that you can do intensely for a short while.
But it doesn’t really work that way with debt, or most other money problems. When you’re paying off loans, you don’t want to build a routine that you’ll be able to keep doing 10 years from now because you don’t want to still have this problem 10 years from now!
The longer your battle with the debt dragon goes on, the more time it has to regain its strength through interest, fees, and who knows what else. And the more exhausted you become. Fight hard and end this thing swiftly.
This one has both a literal meaning and a metaphorical one.
Consolidation can be (but isn’t necessarily) a great strategy to help you get out of debt faster. If you have a large number of loans with high interest rates, poor terms, or that are simply held by an especially predatory bank, it could be worth refinancing to get a single, lower rate. Less interest and fewer fees means more dollars in your pocket for knocking out the principal!
And metaphorically speaking, consolidation is a great way to think about any financial dragon. Don’t let many faces of a single problem divide and conquer you. Get all the bills, the debts, the information you need into one single place and hit that problem with 100% focus.
6. Don’t Sacrifice a Damn Thing
This is a simple, but immensely powerful money mindset technique.
Whenever people talk about doing something with their money that will benefit them in the future more than the present, they tend to use words like “sacrifice.”
This keeps the focus on what you’re “giving up.” But often, you don’t end up missing whatever it is you were “giving up” in the first place. And you definitely will notice what you end up gaining instead.
Treating progress as sacrifice is one of the biggest mistakes people make when saving money. Likewise, it will only get in the way of you paying off debt. Flip the switch by focusing on what you’re doing for yourself, what you’re giving yourself in place of that short-term want, and you’ll quickly find yourself enjoying the process a lot more.
7. Fall in Love with Saving
Choosing to stop treating your major money goals as some sort of punishment you have to go through is a great start. But if you want to really accelerate your progress toward the place you want to be, the trick is to fall in love with the process.
For instance, almost any big money goal – paying off debt included – involves saving money. The money you save is the fuel for whatever else you may want to accomplish. And I get it, saving can be slow and boring.
But it can also be a thrilling adventure, if you let it.
Treat saving like a game. Like a skill you are practicing and honing by the day. Instead of being disappointed by not going out to lunch on a certain day, try feeling excited about the $20, $40, $80 that your choice just freed up for what you really care about: building a future free from financial stress.
8. Leave Nothing on the Table
Most of us have a wealth of financial opportunities sitting well within arm’s reach. Some of these may be small. Some of them may require a bit of creativity on your part. But when you get serious about getting out of debt, reaching your retirement threshold, or slaying any other money monster, you start to see these possibilities all around you.
For instance, at your job. You already take advantage of your paycheck and (hopefully) any retirement plan they offer. But what about the weird, smaller stuff, like:
- Discounts on products or services
- Lifestyle discounts on health insurance
- Education reimbursements
- Free coffee/snacks (hey, it’s still something!)
Every company is different, but most jobs have at least a few extra things you can be taking advantage of. I once got a free toaster oven through a healthy habits program at work. Sure, a toaster oven isn’t going to pay off anyone’s loans. But hey, it makes great toast. For free.
Individually, none of these things is life-changing. But on a short-term sprint to get out of debt, a few of them together can make a big difference!
And it’s not just at work. Look for deals. Use your gift cards. Try out free products and services when they’re available. Keep your eyes open for anything that can help you move the needle.
9. Windfalls are Power-ups
When you hear the word “windfall,” it sounds like something that only happens to other people right? Most people only associate the term with massive and rare events, like receiving a large inheritance or winning the lottery.
Monetary windfalls are far more common than that, but you may not be thinking of them as such. You may receive a windfall in the form of:
- Annual bonuses at work
- Cash gifts from family and friends
- Tax refunds (technically your money to start with, but still a surplus in the budget)
- $10 from winning second prize in a beauty contest (you’re gorgeous, we all know it)
Any amount of money you receive that is unexpected or outside of your typical monthly income should be considered a windfall.
Most people, on receiving a windfall, will quickly find a way to spend it – on anything from a night out on the town to new kitchen appliances to a big vacation. But if you’re serious about dramatically changing your financial life, windfalls (small or large) are a great way to pour more fuel on the fire.
Slaying Your Own Debt Dragon
Like I’ve been saying all along, this isn’t my story. Sure, I’m one of the only two (human) characters in it, and I didn’t even give the other one a name. Just “wife,” yeesh.
Okay, it was a little bit about me. But more importantly, it’s about you, your kids, your parents, your neighbors, all of us. We all face these monstrous, intimidating challenges with money at different points in our lives.
I finally decided to share this story to tell you that you can slay your dragons too. What we did wasn’t special. It was something anyone can do with enough enthusiasm, perseverance, and most of all, focus. We had some advantages on our side, as well as some disadvantages flying in our faces, just as you no doubt do as well. And we stayed true to our quest all the same.
Try to identify the biggest dragon in your financial life right now. Give it a name and a face. As soon as you do, gather up your armor, your sword and shield, your potions and poultices, and let’s go slay this thing.