The human brain is an amazingly complex and powerful machine. When you choose to fuel it with positivity, you can move mountains and part seas.
There’s a lot more to the value of optimism than having a sunny disposition. An ongoing commitment to a positive outlook fundamentally changes the life that you are living.
Positive people not only feel happier, but they also set (and reach) bigger goals, lead healthier lives, build stronger relationships, love themselves more, and attract more confidence and respect from others.
Sound appealing? All of that can be yours with a little more positivity in how you view yourself and the world you inhabit. Here’s how you can unleash more of this magical force into your life.
1. Ask the Teller
David Schwartz, in one of my all-time favorite books on positive thought, The Magic of Thinking Big, describes the human mind as a very effective teller:
“The teller in your memory bank is tremendously reliable. He never crosses you up. If you approach him and say ‘Mr. Teller, let me withdraw some thoughts I deposited in the past proving I’m inferior to just about everybody else,’ he’ll say, ‘Certainly, sir. Recall how you failed two times previously when you tried this?’
But suppose you visit your memory teller with this request: ‘Mr. Teller… can you supply me with any thoughts which will give me reassurance?’ And again Mr. Teller says, ‘Certainly, sir.'”David Schwartz, The Magic of Thinking Big
A more modern analogy might be something like a search engine. Like Google, your brain will find an endless list of answers for whatever you ask, so it’s up to you to decide what you’re seeking.
You Are What You Consistently Search For
When you wake up, you can search for “reasons today sucks,” and your brain will faithfully return results about the weather, the work you have to do, the latest horrifying crisis in the news, and so on.
If, instead, you search for “why today is pretty cool,” you’ll just as quickly get back pages and pages of responses – the beautiful weather, the goals you get to progress on, the people you’ll talk to, the things you’ll learn.
Now, consider what happens when you search for “how I’m going to make today the best day of my freaking life.”
No day has the inherent quality of being either good or bad. It is whatever you search for it to be. Even when difficult or painful moments come, the choice is still ours whether to dive headlong into despair or to start lifting ourselves up.
You can add positivity to any experience by asking your teller (or search engine) for it.
2. More Positivity Out = More Positivity In
What you put out into the world dramatically impacts what comes back to you. So whether you attribute it to karma, the law of attraction, or fundamental interpersonal dynamics, there is an inevitable “what goes around, comes around” sort of effect in play.
So if you’re constantly spitting acid out into the world, you’ll get burned more often.
On the other hand, if you spend more of your time spitting – I don’t know, what’s the symbolic opposite of acid? Milk? No, you don’t want to be spitting milk everywhere, either. That won’t do. Wowee, this metaphor is falling apart fast. Anyway, you get it.
The persona you put into the world has a natural magnetism to those around you. Whether for better or worse, we constantly exchange influence with those around us.
Think about what you choose to contribute to the conversation. You’re putting out a negative signal if it’s predominantly bad news, complaints, and general gloom. As it adds up, you push those around you to feel more down about things too. They will then start to speak negatively, giving you more reasons to feel displeased.
When you bring a positive outlook to the conversation, others will take note. They will feel happier and gradually move to a more positive attitude. Then they will have more uplifting things to say, and that positivity will come back around to you!
Moreover, people like spending time with positive people, whether they recognize it or not. Therefore, radiating positivity is one of the best things you can do for your relationships, both in the short and long term.
3. Add Positivity Through Subtraction
Oh boy. First, a flimsy chemistry metaphor about acid, and now some math nonsense? Oh well, it’s too late to turn back now. So let’s get into it!
You can make a number bigger by adding to it, or you can make a number bigger by subtracting something that was detracting from it.
In other words, if Marie has a basket of apples and wants more apples, she has two options. She can go out and pick more apples or kick out her greedy neighbor, who keeps taking them out of her basket. In either case, Marie would have more apples at the end of the day than if she did nothing.
Happiness works the same way. You can add stuff that adds to it, or you can subtract things that subtract from it. And often, the latter is easier to find.
We all have at least a few things hanging around that bring us down. Unhealthy habits, toxic relationships, negative thinking, and cluttered environments are a few examples.
What’s bringing you down right now, and what can you do to mitigate or remove it?
Admittedly, some negatives are much more dug in and harder to remove than others. If those are the ones you’re going after, the payoff is likely to be bigger, but so is the fight for it, so be ready.
Anytime you can remove negatives from your life, big or small, is a net positive. So before you add more things to your life to improve things, maybe look around first to see what you can clear out!
4. Spice Things Up
One funny quirk of being an omnivorous species is the inalienable craving for novelty. We want variety, a change in the routine, something we haven’t tried before.
From a Darwinian perspective, this improves our species’ survival odds by protecting us from food scarcity. In the animal kingdom, picky eaters find themselves in a dangerous spot when they lose access to their primary food source.
Omnivores are always looking to diversify. When we’ve overfished our shores, we can find and grow plants to eat. When inclement weather kills our crops, we can find sources of meat. The pull toward variety keeps us resilient and ready to adapt.
And it’s not just with food. The same curiosity and resulting flexibility also apply to meeting new people, seeing new places, and trying new things.
Of course, we have to be cautious, too; all animals do. Healthy caution of new things helps populations survive predators, poisons, and plagues. So we can’t eat just any green goop growing on the cave wall, but let’s be honest; we’re still curious.
These two opposing drives lead to a fascinating emotional phenomenon.
Our emotional system rewards behaviors that benefit us and discourages situations that could harm us.
Exploring new things is helpful for survival, and so it gives us a rush of positivity and excitement when we do. But if we go too far at once, we can overwhelm or endanger ourselves.
When you walk the razor’s edge of experiencing new, uncomfortable things while staying safe and taking care of yourself, the resulting emotional reward is intoxicating.
So try something new! Challenge your routine, but look after yourself, don’t venture too far all at once, and you’ll feel great after!
5. Quit Messing Around with Lemons
Look, I know what you’re thinking: “Lemons? What a great place to revive that acid metaphor from earlier and give it its moment to shine.” But look, that metaphor just isn’t working out. And instead of taking something that isn’t working for you and trying to squeeze it into something that’s not as bad, sometimes you have to walk away.
In other words, when life gives you lemons, you don’t have to make lemonade.
When a car is so busted up that selling it becomes an ethical issue, we call it a lemon. There are laws against selling them. So what do you do when someone sells you a lemon? Do you make lemonade with it, or do you go to court, get your money back, and look for a better car? I mean, what other fruit has that bad of a branding issue? And we’re still messing around with these sour yellow harbingers of dissatisfaction? Like it’s our job to make them better?
It takes time, energy, and supplies to make lemonade, so if that wasn’t what you were looking for in the first place, don’t settle for it now. Instead, save your time and energy for something better.
Life will hit you with all kinds of stuff – good, bad, and ugly. It’s up to you what you keep. It’s up to you to advocate for yourself, push back, and choose abundance over scarcity.
You’re often better off getting back to your own adventure and searching for what you want, like a better fruit with a higher pH value. There’s the acid joke.
6. Move Around
You’ve got to move around.
If you won’t do it for your heart health, lung capacity, muscle and bone strength, cholesterol, blood sugar levels, self-confidence, and so much more, then do it for your happiness — the flood of positivity it brings into your life.
Exercise of any kind is great news for mental health. Play a sport, work out at the gym or in the living room, run, swim, climb, or dance. Whatever you enjoy doing that keeps you moving.
If all else fails, go for a walk, take the stairs, or carry one more bag of groceries at a time than you usually would. Put your body to work, and it will thank you.
For one thing, adequate movement during the day leads to better sleep, making us happier and more focused.
On a chemical level, exercise releases endorphins in the brain, which create a sense of euphoria. Endorphins are drugs that you can make yourself, for free, with no health downsides. And it’s even legal! All you have to do is throw on your dancin’ (or tennis) shoes.
Working out is also great for self-confidence and positive body image. However you want to move, just move. It is one of the most important things you can do for not just your physical health but your mental health, too.
7. The Positivity of Small Wins
Success, even when measured in minor achievements, brings a significant boost to happiness and excitement.
From reaching a major life goal to finishing a simple chore, achieving wins in your day is an essential building block of a happy, fulfilling life.
Even a task as small as making your bed in the morning can be enough of a positivity boost to launch you forward into the rest of the day. This is the titular point in Retired US Admiral William McRaven’s insightful little book, Make Your Bed :
“…it is not just combat. It is daily life that needs this same sense of structure… sometimes the simple act of making your bed can give you the lift you need to start your day and provide you the satisfaction to end it right.
If you want to change your life and maybe the world– start off by making your bed!”Admiral William H. McRaven, Make Your Bed
Drawing on a storied naval career and a lifetime of massive achievements, Admiral McRaven understands firsthand the critical necessity of building on the momentum of small wins.
You don’t have to break your personal record for distance running or complete your Ph.D. to give yourself the positivity boost of a win. Every achievement helps, so keep an eye out for low-hanging fruit like lemons and give yourself a win wherever possible.
What can you complete, remove, or otherwise check off the list to give yourself a gold star?
If you’ve got a big goal you’ve been working on for a while that’s at the 1-yard line, that’s a great place to start. If you’ve got a pesky little task to get done, that’s great too. Giving yourself wins creates positivity and self-satisfaction, and they pave the way for more wins to come.
4 thoughts on “7 Easy Ways to Unleash More Positivity into Your Life”
I really enjoyed reading this! Speaks so much to what I try to keep “in check”, in myself, and what amazes me about my wife of 30 years.
I definitely feel where you’re coming from with “keeping it in check”. We can make positive thinking more of a habit, but it will always need at least some attention to keep it going, particularly when things get tough.
Really interesting article! I liked all the metaphors you used 🙂
Keep up the good work!
Thanks for reading, I’m glad you liked my metaphors! I have a lot of fun with them, but sometimes I need to step back while I’m writing and realize that I’m mixing three different analogies in the same section…